Are you someone who struggles to ask for help when you need it? If you are, you’re not alone — I’m right there with you. I recently experienced a situation where I had no option but to ask for help, and it ultimately taught me three things that deserve sharing:
One — Needing others from time to time is an inescapable part of our human experience.
Two — Allowing others to help us in our times of need is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Three — Asking for help teaches us that we have people in our lives who genuinely want to be there for us, even those whom we didn’t expect!
I hope that sharing my story about a time when I was truly vulnerable and, as a result, was overwhelmed with support, will encourage you to lean on those around you. You’re not alone in this life, and you are worthy of receiving abundance, ease, and love.
Ask and You Shall Receive
So, here it goes. Recently, I was getting a minor procedure done, and although it wasn’t threatening to me, it required that I did not leave alone after it was done. To be completely honest with you, when I first heard this news from my doctor, my first thought was FML. So I asked if I could walk home instead, to which my doctor insisted that I’d need to have someone in the lobby for me when it was time to leave. Again, FML.
My family does not live anywhere remotely near me, and I felt guilty thinking about asking someone to take time in the middle of their week and work day to be there for me physically. I was so consumed by the thought of inconveniencing anyone that I didn’t allow myself to consider the fact that there are people in my life who’d want to be there to help me.
of course, before I came to that realization, I decided to turn to social media. (For whatever reason, that felt safer than reaching out to someone individually.) I posted about my situation and was absolutely blown away by the amount of responses I received. I felt so unbelievably cared for, even by people who I just knew peripherally.
The feeling of being a bother drastically transformed into the feeling of being loved. I no longer felt weak or needy because I asked for help, instead, I was reminded that I’m only human and became empowered by the support around me. So, I encourage you to push through the negative feelings of not being strong enough, together enough, or whatever emotions are blocking you from asking for and receiving help.
Giving and Receiving Help Is a Win-Win Situation
It’s time to challenge the narrative that asking for help is a sign of weakness. In reality, it takes strength and vulnerability to acknowledge when we need support and to reach out for it. By doing so, we open ourselves up to the possibility of receiving love and care from those around us.
And guess what? It can also strengthen our relationships with others. By allowing others to help us, we show that we trust and value their presence in our lives.
I can hear you now, “But what if I get rejected or judged for asking for help?” Well, here’s the kicker, folks. If someone judges you for asking for help, that’s a reflection of their own insecurity, not yours. And if someone rejects you for asking for help, that just means they’re not the right person to help you in that particular situation. It’s not a reflection of your worth as a person. (In the moment, of course, it’s not always easy to remember, but it can be a valuable learning experience.) Use it as an opportunity to tap into your own strengths and resilience, and keep moving forward.
In conclusion, my friends, we all need help from time to time. It’s part of the human experience. So, let’s normalize asking for help and start supporting each other instead of judging and shaming one another. Not only will it lead to stronger relationships, but it also will lead to greater personal growth and well-being.
Remember, you are not alone in this world, and you are deserving of help and support. Don’t be afraid to ask for it. And to those who may be struggling with offering help, remember that it’s okay to say no if you’re not able to provide it. But also remember that offering help can lead to a profound impact on someone’s life, and that alone can often impact your own! Let’s spread love, kindness, and support, one ask for help at a time.