We all have had those moments in our lives where we’ve struggled to make the right decision. Sometimes we let fear creep in and control our actions, leading us down a path that might not align with what we truly want or need for ourselves.
Other times, we let the opinions of others cloud our judgment, making us doubt our intuition and often leading us to outcomes that aren’t fulfilling. When this happens, it can feel like we’ve strayed away from ourselves and have lost touch with those gut feelings that I believe are the key to finding self-fulfillment.
So what if we could learn to trust ourselves more? What if we could not only tap into those gut feelings but use them as our decision-making guides? Let’s explore the power of intuition and how I’ve learned to follow it to find my most authentic self—and you can too!
Just a few months ago, I was faced with making a decision that, on paper, looked like an amazing opportunity. Although there were clear positives to going in this direction, I knew it would come with the cost of giving up something that I enjoyed and felt comfortable doing. I was torn. The idea of what could be and how promising this opportunity sounded made me resist the churning “this isn’t right” feeling I had inside.
Tempted by outside forces, I silenced my inner voices that were telling me no, and I moved forward. Very soon after, I learned that the opportunity wasn’t what it was cracked up to be, and I had to scramble to get myself back to the position I was in before.
Although it was difficult, in the long run, I am grateful because the gut punch of this experience taught me that my gut is exactly what I need to listen to.
So what is our intuition and why can it be so hard for us to follow it?
Intuition is that inner voice or those gut feelings that guide us, especially when we come to pivotal moments that will shape the trajectory of our life paths. It is not learned or acquired; it has grown with us since we were born, and if we can quiet the noise around us and really listen to it, it has the answers we need.
Naturally, this is way easier said than done—our daily lives are cluttered with distractions and comparisons. If we let ourselves get inundated by how our family, friends, church, or community members think of us or base our decisions on their advice or experiences, we’re letting others’ voices speak louder than our own.
Taking the job that pays well but sucks your soul because others told you it was a great option. Not taking a trip because someone made you question how much it would cost. Staying in a shit relationship because it’s better than being alone—even though you know it’s not the one for you. ACK! Enough already! We need to be confident that we are the ones in control.
Our lives are only ours to live, and when we learn how to live for ourselves and not abide by the approval or influence of others, we can make the choices that truly will make us happy. So let’s get to it then!
How do we tap into our intuition?
To tap into your intuition, it is so important to make space for your mind and body. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and yoga, are some of the most powerful ways to disconnect from outside influences and connect with your intuition. By taking time to quiet your mind and tune into your breath, you can create a space for your intuition to speak.
Journaling also can be a helpful way to identify your thoughts and feelings as well as notice patterns where fear could be outweighing your inner voice.
Start small and focus on making daily intentional decisions based only on what you want. It can be as simple as putting on an outfit that brings you joy or making a meal just because you think it’s yummy. Consistent reminders that we are in control of what makes us happy, big or small, can help to strengthen your confidence that following your intention will lead to being your best self.
In my life coaching and hypnotherapy sessions, I guide you to dig deeper into the areas that are holding you back. And I give you the tools you need to make decisions that are separate from others’ opinions, allowing you to fully explore who YOU are and what YOU want.
We must remember that we are the only ones who truly know ourselves and our path. So, trust yourself to know what is right for you, even if it might be different from what others expect.
It’s not always easy to tune out the outside voices and follow the guidance our gut can offer us. Leaning on ourselves to make the final call can be scary, but when we step into the power that is our intuition, we start to live on our own terms.
Next time you are faced with a decision that leaves your mind churning, I encourage you to pretend you have on headphones that cancel out all outside noise. Then listen to what your gut is telling you, and use it as your guide. Those feelings deep down have a lot to tell us, and although they come with some fear, they can make all the difference toward a truly brighter future. When we trust ourselves to know what is right for us, we open the door to a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Are you ready to start trusting yourself to determine your own destiny? Let’s do it together!